Ministry Reading Questions:
- What is God’s unit in His salvation?
- What is the special responsibility God has placed on the head of a family?
- What should be the focus of the homes in helping the children?
- How can parents nurture and nourish the children that they can grow?
- How can the sisters, who have a special portion, take the lead in the children’s work?
God’s Ordained Way Being To Gain Households
In considering the exercise and practice of the God-ordained way to preach the gospel, we must include the unit of God’s salvation; God’s promise of salvation takes the household as a unit, not the individual as a unit (Acts 2:39; 16:31). Concerning eternal life, the Bible takes an individual, not a household, as the unit; however, concerning salvation, it shows that men are saved household by household (1 John 5:12; Gen. 7:1.). We hope that all the children who are born among us will not need our extra effort in the future to bring them to salvation and to rescue them out of the world; some have already been born into our fleshly family; we should make sure that they are born into our spiritual family also (Psa. 87:5; 2 Tim. 1:5).
Whether or not the church will go on in the next generation depends on whether we can bring our own children to the Lord; if we lose as many as are born to us, our second generation will be gone (Psa. 127:3-5). If generation after generation all those who are born into our midst stand fast and if we also have some increase from the outside, the church will be strong and its number will increase (2 Tim. 1:5). We must never give birth to a child only to lose it later; instead, those who are born to us must be regenerated (Psa. 127:3).
In the Bible, the head of a family has the special responsibility before God for bringing his whole household to the Lord and to His service; the head of the household can decide for his entire household (Josh. 24:15). We should declare with faith that we have decided that our family will be a family that worships God and that our family will be a family that believes in the Lord; if we exercise our authority to take the lead, our children will go along (2 Cor. 4:13; Mark 2:4-5). The household is ours, and we have the power to decide whether this house will serve the Lord; when we take this stand, everyone who is under us will come to the Lord; they will have no other way to take (1 Cor. 11:3).
Household salvation is one of the greatest principles in the Bible; once you are saved, your whole household should be saved; as an individual you must first stand firm for the Lord, and then your household will change 1 Cor 7:14). When we invite people to come to a meeting of the church, many will come by themselves; if we go to visit people in their homes, we will reach their whole household (Luke 19:5-9).
The Children’s Work in the Homes
The scriptural basis for the small groups and the home meetings is the expression from house to house in Acts 2:46 and 5:42; on the day of Pentecost, as soon as the church was raised up on the earth, it began to meet from house to house (2:41, 46; 5:42; 20:20; 1 Cor. 16:19). To gain the increase, we need to have the home meetings; we need to have meetings in the new believers’ homes, in the homes of the ones we gain through our preaching of the gospel. To bring the meetings to the homes is the very heart of the God-ordained way; it is a great failure in the Lord’s recovery if we cannot bring the meetings to the homes. To meet in the homes is organic; if we only have a meeting hall with a definite, regular schedule, this will bring the entire church into the “box” of organization and causes us to lose the organic ability (Rom. 16:5; 1 Cor. 16:19; Col. 4:15; Philem. 2). Meeting in the believers’ homes is for all the members of Christ to function; in any big meeting it is hard for the saints to function, but in a small meeting with four or five, or two or three, even a small boy or girl could function (Acts 2:21, 46; 5:42; 12:12; Matt. 18:20).
We have to realize that the way the Lord is taking is to build up His church in the believers’ homes; once the church is built up in the homes, the homes will be transformed (1 Cor. 16:19; 14:12; 1:2). The children will be preserved from drifting along the current of the age; in the end, the family will become proper and normal. We can invite our relatives to the home meetings, and they will see the situation in our homes and will be touched to receive the Lord’s salvation.
According to what he says in 1 Thessalonians 2, Paul regards the believers as members of a large family. Of course, in a family there is the need for some amount of teaching. Both a mother and a father teach their children. However, in a family the focus is not on teaching the children but is on raising them by cherishing, nourishing, and fostering them so that they may grow. Their growth is not mainly in knowledge: it is primarily a growth in life. As children grow in life, they spontaneously receive more education. The knowledge they acquire always goes along with their growth in life. They should not be given knowledge prematurely. This means that their knowledge should not exceed their growth of life. This is the proper concept of Christian work.
Concerning this matter, we in the Lord’s recovery must have a change in our concept. Do not think that in the recovery we regard work higher than life. No, we need to concentrate on life. The church is a family. The church may also be compared to a farm or a garden. A family is a place where children grow up, and an orchard is a place where trees grow and produce fruit. Paul’s concern in chapter 2 is with the growth of his children. He is fostering the young believers so that they may grow. We may also say that he is watering, nourishing, and cherishing the tender young plants so that they may grow in life. This is the reason that instead of giving the believers a great deal of teaching, he presents them a pattern of life. This pattern of a proper living is actually Paul himself. (Life-study of 1 Thessalonians, pp. 108-109)
To nurture children means to bring them up, to raise them, by nourishing them. Raising children requires that the parents give them the needed instruction related to human life, family life, and social life. The word admonition here includes instruction. Paul was probably referring to the Old Testament requirement that parents instruct their children with the word of God (Deut. 6:7). This means that we are to teach our children with the Bible. Along with this instruction, we sometimes must discipline them, chastise them. It is crucial that parents learn to nurture the children in the discipline and admonition of the Lord. (Life-study of Ephesians, pp. 520-521)
As human beings, we fell and need the Lord’s salvation. After the fall, God came in to restrict man. For example, God imposed restrictions on the woman because the fall had come in through her (Gen. 3:16); this restriction was actually a protection. In human society today, chaos would prevail were it not for the restraints of ethical teachings, the police, and the law courts. These have been ordained by God to limit the fallen race. Since our families are part of the fallen race, we as parents must exercise God’s ordination to restrict our children by ethical teachings, regulations, and discipline. For proper human living in your home, you must teach your children to behave properly by honoring their parents, caring for their brothers and sisters, respecting their neighbors, and not stealing.
Do not say that ethical teachings are apart from Christ and therefore worthless. The necessities of our human existence are one thing; the experiences of Christ, another. For our human living we must buy groceries, do laundry, lock our doors to prevent burglaries, be careful about fire, open and close windows, and cook and eat. Besides taking care of these earthly matters, we are also learning to experience Christ. These are two different areas; both are needed. (Life Messages, vol. 1, pp. 91-92)
Building Up a Prevailing Children’s Work in the Church
We expect the children’s work among us to be very prevailing; therefore, we need to have a proper realization and preparation for this work (Gen. 1:28; Psa. 127:3). Some may think that it is easy to care for the children by simply giving them a piece of candy. However, to handle the children in this way will not yield a good result. According to my observation, the most difficult work to do effectively is the children’s work. (The Collected Works of Witness Lee, 1967, vol. 1, p. 311)
Whether or not we succeed in the children’s work depends partly on the teaching material and partly on the brothers and sisters who take the lead. How can a family not take care of its children? This should be a great matter to us. No family will disregard its children; as a priority a family looks after its children, raises them, and teaches them. Hence, we must serve the many children in God’s family. (The Collected Works of Witness Lee, 1967, vol. 1, p. 314)
The leading sisters in the churches must receive a burden for the children’s work. Under the arrangement of the church and the leading of the elders, they should concentrate on the children’s work and lead all the sisters to participate. The elders are too busy to take care of the details. Instead of waiting for the elders, the sisters should pray much and make plans. They can then present their plans for the children’s work to the elders for their approval. This is just like a family in which the husband is busy with his job and cannot plan the details for the household. The wife can make plans and carry things out with the consent of the husband. In this way the wife does not do anything independently and will still be able to take care of the details of the household in a timely way. (The Collected Works of Witness Lee, 1967, vol. 1, p. 314)
In carrying out this work, we need to pay attention to a few principles. First, a number of sisters should rise up to lead the children’s work. A number of older sisters must receive this burden. The elders should also appoint three to six sisters to take up this responsibility. (The Collected Works of Witness Lee, 1967, vol. 1, p. 305)
The sisters in every church should be persistent to promote the burden for the children. On the one hand, they should not give the brothers any peace, and on the other hand, they should learn not to assume the leadership but to be full of patience, knowing when to proceed and when to wait. The sisters should be persistent to develop the children’s work in the church. Furthermore, according to the leading of the Lord, they should fellowship with other sisters who are serving. As the sisters fellowship more and more, the burden for the children will increase more and more, and the number of sisters who are burdened will grow as well. Through fellowship, more and more people will be burdened for the children.
The sisters should fellowship about the way to carry out the children’s work. For example, they can determine how many sisters are available to be with the children, how many young sisters can teach the children, how many children can come and even bring other children to the meetings, and even how many cannot come. Once they have a general idea of the situation, the sisters should meet with the elders and let them know of the needs in the children’s work. This will surely activate the work among the children. Although the sisters should not assume to lead or head up anything, they should be persistent so that the brothers who take the lead can promote this matter. All the sisters’ service, including the children’s work, should be done in this way.
The sisters who have a burden for the children should stand in the position of sisters with their heads absolutely covered. They should not take the lead or head up anything but only actively promote things. They can speak to the elders so that the elders who do not have a burden will become burdened over time. However, they should not depend on the elders for everything, because the elders will not be able to consider all the details. Instead, the sisters should pray over every matter, have a thorough fellowship among themselves, and then ask the elders to give the word to proceed. The sisters should not expect the elders to make all the arrangements or plan everything for them. The sisters can make plans and arrangements, but before implementing anything, they should bring their plans and considerations to the elders and ask the elders to examine and approve them. If the elders do not approve of a certain aspect of the arrangement, it should be dropped. The sisters should not do anything that has not been approved by the elders. This kind of fellowship and coordination will result in the elders becoming more burdened for the children’s work. (The Collected Works of Witness Lee, 1967, vol. 1, pp. 341-342)
Many of the sisters love the Lord, but they need to find the way to do something for the Lord, not by themselves but by abiding in the vine to impart life into others. If we bear the little ones as fruit, the Lord will add them to our account. Only eternity will reveal the result of this. Perhaps out of a group of children for whom we are caring, some will become apostles. Therefore, I encourage the sisters to do this good work. All the housewives can bring children to the meetings, and the younger sisters can be trained to cooperate with them to bear these little ones as fruit. (The Collected Works of Witness Lee, 1967, vol. 1, p. 550)
To have the practical church life to the uttermost, in the local church there should be some real sisters and some real mothers. In an earlier message it was my burden to share with you that you need to be a serving sister, but now I am burdened to share with you that you need to be a mother. As long as there is a shortage of sisters like Phoebe among us, the church life is not practical. Yet the serving of that sister is at the beginning of Romans 16, in the first verse. When the church life in practicality reaches a peak, in every church there should be some real mothers. (Loving Mothers in the Church Life, pp. 7-8)
I believe that there is quite a large number of children in every locality. As soon as we begin the children’s work, the young people will begin to function. They can all take part in serving the children…we will need young people to coordinate and serve. The young people need to give themselves to this work, and this will give everyone an opportunity to practice speaking. (The Collected Works of Witness Lee, 1967, vol. 1, p. 326)
When the entire church is mobilized in this way, all the brothers and sisters will have an opportunity to serve. Some can open their homes, others can bring the children to the meetings, and still others can teach the children. When all the saints endeavor in one accord for the Lord’s heart’s desire, the profit will be immeasurable. This will impress the children that we are all for the Lord and are caring for them without compensation. Those who open their homes do not ask for money, those who teach do not ask for money, and those who transport the children do not ask for money. Instead of asking for money, the saints spend their own money to pay the expenses of carrying out the children’s service. As a result, everyone will be full of joy. Our conducting children’s meetings in this way will deeply impress the children from their youth. They will see people who live for Christ and who sacrifice for Christ, not caring for themselves. This is the ultimate benefit. Furthermore, the impact will unconsciously influence the relatives of the children in such a way that it will be easy to invite them to a gospel meeting. Hence, the children’s work is a major service. (The Collected Works of Witness Lee, 1967, vol. 1, p. 306)